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Are You Smart Enough?

Friday, January 13th, 2012

Our world reveres a high IQ, maybe not quite a much as money or beauty but high intellect comes in a close third. For sure, a strong intellect (left brain intelligence) allows us to understand and manage the physical environment. High intelligence is equated with a natural ability to solve abstract problems that so often bring concrete rewards – like high salaries -  they have just announced that Steve Jobs’ replacement at Apple will be earning over $380 million per year) and public accolades.

I’ve spent a lot of time in Silicon Valley over the last couple of years and I can say that  this area is the Hollywood for ’smart’ people. Not only is it the home of giants like Google and Apple, but is filled with small hi-tech start-ups whose founders’ dreams are almost uniformly to become as successful as the two giants or, failing that, to be bought out by them.

Last week William Poundstone published a book called Are You Smart Enough to Work at Google? which lists all the tests, puzzles, and trick questions that Google uses to sift the so-called super smart from the mere smart.

Interestingly, I lived for 20 years with a guy who could have slammed those tests. After obtaining a scholarship to Cambridge University he co-authored two papers with his Genetics professor which were published in professional journals before he’d finished his undergraduate degree. He measured in 1.0 percentile of the population on intelligence tests. He was almost always the smartest guy in the room. And yes, that led to above average remuneration throughout his working life.

But was he smart enough to live a good life? Was he smart enough to know that the matters of the heart trump the life of the brain when it comes to making good relationship, health and financial decisions? But more importantly, in a world where he was continually being told how smart he was, and with the knowledge of all the things this could bring him, was he smart enough to know what he didn’t know?

My experience over two decades of living with someone of his intellectual calibre was that yes, he was brilliant at solving all problems that had no emotional component. But when things got tough, when things seemed to crash and fall apart, he needed, and relied on, my right brain approach to life – an approach that is calm in the face of disaster, flexible in a time of flux, and has enduring confidence that all works for the best for all involved, no matter what, if only we can stay the path and keep putting one foot in front of the other.

There are so many ways of knowing something. This world is only just beginning to see the possibilities of right brain ‘knowing.’ It might not make sense to the left brain, but as stroke survivor and Harvard trained brain scientist Jill Bolte Taylor says, the left hemisphere has no role in our perception of forces and powers unseen. In her memoir My Stroke of Insight, in which she describes the effects of the stroke that temporarily incapacitated her left brain, she says:

“Based upon my experience with losing my left mind, I whole-heartedly believe that the feeling of deep inner peace is neurological circuitry located in our right brain…The first thing I do to experience my inner peace is to remember that I am part of a greater structure  – an eternal flow of energy and molecules from which I cannot be separated…Knowing that I am part of the cosmic flow makes me feel innately safe and experience my life as heaven on earth. How can I feel vulnerable when I cannot be separated from the greater whole? My left mind thinks of me as a fragile individual capable of losing my life. My right mind realizes that the essence of my being has eternal life. Although I may lose these cells and my ability to perceive this three-dimensional world, my energy will merely absorb back into the tranquil sea of euphoria. Knowing this leaves me grateful for the time I have here...”

True inner peace cannot be rationally or logically measured, calculated or created. It can’t be seen, only felt. It is the thought/feeling that rises up only when the left brain, the rational measurer and calculator, is silenced. IQ has nothing to do with it.

Are We Worth It?

Thursday, August 25th, 2011

I recently had a conversation with a young mother who has a toddler which she not only loves being at home with but also understands the immense value of being a full-time mother to her gorgeous little girl. Despite this, she is thinking of going back to work.

When I asked why, she said she wanted the freedom to spend money – shoes and handbags were high on her list – without having to account to anyone else, namely her husband, for her periodic indulgences.

This seems to be a recurring and common attitude that I see in young (and even more mature) women, and sometimes men. They think that if they are not the ones directly responsible for earning the family income they have less right to that income. Using that logic the one who is not responsible for actually shopping, cooking and presenting the meal on the table would have less right to eat it.

Surely marriage and family life is a matter of teamwork, a division of labour that benefits all. It is only our societal worship of all things material, and by extension the currency that enables us to acquire them, that leads us to give greater value to the breadwinner.

So the fundamental question is: are we worth it? If we don’t think we are, then all the money in the world won’t change the persistent sense of emptiness we feel inside. which we try to fill with things outside of ourselves (bags and shoes are really good for this – don’t get me wrong every self-respecting woman needs a good supply of both, but it’s all in the intention behind the buying, not the act of acquiring itself).

If women valued themselves more and had a greater appreciation for their contribution to soul life of this planet – as well their invaluable and inimitable contribution to all aspects of life – we wouldn’t even have to ask the question.

Success?

Thursday, July 28th, 2011

If there is an infinite field of possibilities that connects all things – as the Quantum physicists say there is – and if we want to find the way to tap into that infinite field, we have to change our definition of success.

A couple of years ago I told an acquaintance that a young friend of mine, who was just launching her adult life, had told me that she didn’t have any desire to be a raging success (implying that she wanted balance in her life). The acquaintance laughed scornfully in my face. What does she want to be, he asked, a failure? (more…)

A No-Brainer

Tuesday, May 31st, 2011

So, I have another friend. She’s left the workaday world and headed off on an international adventure. This is exciting, even exhilarating, because the potentials seem endless. Anything, even her heartfelt desire, just might be possible.

But it also can be scary. So scary that in these circumstances we are all tempted to consider, as my friend is, returning to circumstances (in this case, a job) similar to those we have just mustered the courage to leave. (more…)

I Want To Be a Princess

Thursday, November 25th, 2010

The news of the week is the official engagement of William and Kate. Outside Hollywood, there is little that captures the imagination and rouses the excitement of so many young (and not so young) girls. The promise of tiaras, bejewelled ballgowns and coachmen and butlers seems to play to a primal sense of hope similar to that which we feel when we hear about lottery winners: one day it could happen to us.

This hope persists, even when it is so obviously against the odds (i once heard that there is less chance of winning the lottery than putting one foot in a bath and being struck by lightning). Statistical probability and logical reasoning have nothing to do with it. Somewhere, somehow and sometime, it will be us. (more…)

Freedom For and Freedom From

Thursday, September 9th, 2010

I apologise to all my regular readers for failing to post a blog last week. I was incommunicado on a self-imposed retreat in Bali. Whilst there I attended a couple of talks about karma and destiny, where a thought provoking and interesting point about freedom was made.

Most of us assume that freedom means being able to do anything we want(within the bounds of legality of course) without restraint or interference. Not only do we need certain laws and social conditions but our notions of freedom are also entangled with money – that true freedom cannot exist without full economic freedom. (more…)

What We Need, When We Need It

Wednesday, August 25th, 2010

My great teacher – the wise old soul that is my still young daughter –  recently helped set me right, yet again. I’ve recently become embroiled in a situation that seems unfair. It seems that  I will be denied something that I feel I deserve and have a right to receive and I was railing about this great injustice, singing the ‘woe is me’ song loudly.

She let me vent for a moment, then she  punctured my self-pity with this gem: (more…)

Acknowledge Me

Wednesday, August 11th, 2010

There is a new song on the radio about the desire to be rich and famous. The song is about becoming famous enough to be on the Oprah show, and the general craving for acknowledgment and recognition. The final line of the chorus is “I want to be a billionaire, real frickin’ bad”  suggesting that all our dreams turn on enormous amounts of money.

Robert Ohotto, a world famous astrologer and author, points to the increasing number of young people who genuinely believe that it’s in their stars to be a star. In fact, he argues, this desire does not arise from a genuine love of acting or singing, but rather a deep-seated desire to be ‘recognised’ on a grand scale. (more…)

Truth That Sets You Free

Wednesday, July 7th, 2010

It is not often you come across a truly profound idea but recently I read this passage in a book called The End of Your World by Adyashanti and it has stayed with me since. It deals with what it really means when we tell the ‘truth’ :

To tell what is true within ourselves is not to tell what we think; it is not to tell our opinion. It is not to dump the garbage can of our mind onto somebody else. All of that is illusion, distortion, projection…Truth is not telling our beliefs about things. That is not truth. Those are ways we actually hide from truth.’ (more…)

What Are You Worth?

Wednesday, June 2nd, 2010

Ok, I’m happy to admit I’m a bit of a techno-cretin. I only have a limited understanding of the most basic functions. I have absolutely no understanding of how it all works in the big picture. Like Facebook.

That’s how I ended up posting a personal conversation with my niece in London for all the world to see. I got a fair bit of feedback about it – the most I’ve had since I signed up, actually – clearly people were uncomfortable about the comment because I talked about paying for my niece’s fare to come visit us in Australia as my 18th birthday present to her. (more…)